Every Control Node tries to consume _inputs. To interact with things inside each tabs, I recommend to use nested unhandled input like this hierarchy
Tabs
Tab1 - _unhandled_input()
Item1 - _unhandled_input()
Then you can prevent parent Nodes from consuming inputs. If parent nodes consume inputs, _unhandled_inputs will not be triggered.
Set Every control node's (including parent) "mouse_filter" property to 2 (Ignore) to make parent nodes not to consume inputs. or you can code like this:
ControlNode.set_mouse_filter(2)
set 'activated' variable on each tab manager. initial value to false. And make active tab's 'activated' variable to true.
put next code to every tabs.
_unhandled_input(event):
if activated == true:
do something here
It will solve the problem.